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Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Sidetable Flowers

You can create your side table flower arrangements at a low cost.
Vase $2.50 Walmart. Flowers $2 each Walmart. Rocks $1 Dollar Tree.
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HOPE DEFERRED



I read something that I believe will be an encouragement to you today! If you are in the ministry and have not seen near what you have dreamed then read this. I want to share this with you all today.
This reads better with a laptop. If you use a phone is cuts off portions.






Hope Deferred


Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
 but a
 desire fulfilled is a tree of life.
There’s a certain lyrical quality to this proverb which
 makes it
 beautiful, but there’s also an intriguing ambiguity about
 its meaning that makes you read it over and over again.
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” When your dreams 
do not come true, it is easy to become depressed. 
But notice, the hope is not necessarily failed. It is only
 deferred. The Hebrew word in this place
 means “to drag.” And so the Proverb is saying
 that when your hope takes a long time to come to fruition,
 when it drags, the time of waiting can be very sad and 
disappointing.
You can imagine how it feels to wait for something,
 something  that you believe to be very important, 
even the realization of
 your dreams. You start to wonder if God is ever going to 
give it to you. You start to wonder why He’s taking so long. 
Does He really love you after all?
And this is where the second half of the Proverb comes in,
 and it seems to cut both ways. “But a desire fulfilled is
 a tree of life.”
 A tree of life– that’s an interesting metaphor.
 A fulfilled desire
 is like one of the trees in the Garden of Eden,
 the one that granted immortality. 
What could this mean?
There’s a simple contrast at work. The fulfilled
 desire is very good,
 whereas the deferred hope was sad. I think there’s
 something else going on, though, and I think the Eden
 imagery is an
 important clue. You see, Adam and Eve’s sin was a 
sin of false hope. Instead of trusting in God’s timing
 and being patient and content with His plan, they
 decided to take the object of their desire,
 the fruit of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good
 and Evil. Genesis 3:6 says that this fruit
 was “desirable,” and so we can 
see that the original sin was a false desire fulfilled.
Thus while the fulfillment of our desires
 can be a very good thing,
 the pursuit of this fulfillment can always also
be a temptation to sin.
 Are we allowing our heart to become sick
 because of our desires and our expectations 
about when and how they should be fulfilled?
 Are we, like Adam and Eve, trying to
 grasp now what might be given to us at a later time, 
on our own terms rather than on God’s?
“Heart sickness” is a very complicated thing,
 but it always takes us to an encounter with God. 
What do we think about
 Him and what He is doing in our lives at this moment? 
Do we place our hope, as well as our faith,
 in Him or are we still
 hoping for something else?
We must make sure that our desire for the
 Tree of Life does not become a desire for something more,
 for something that is not ours to take on our own terms. 
We must learn to wait on the Lord, to trust that He knows best.
 And as we trust Him, we will find that He is the true
 fulfillment of our desires.
All of this should drive us to the Cross.
 Jesus Christ must finally be our Tree of Life.
Posted on May 14, 2013 by Steven Wedgeworth

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Monday, March 30, 2015

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What frustrates you in the ministry?
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Share your story.
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Spencer ' s 14th Birthday Party

Laser Tag memories.








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Friday, March 27, 2015

Mother's Day Tea



Every year I host a Mother and Daughter party. This year I plan on hosting another party.
My inspiration: High Tea Meets Rustic Elegance
Looking forward to having family and friends there to celebrate what being a mother is all about.

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Tuesday, March 24, 2015

The Language Of Letting Go 4

                                     Nollia Art (reg. copyright)

Fear:
Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little course, and you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice? Up again; you shall never be so afraid of a tumble. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Fear can be a big stopper for many of us. Relax! Our best is good enough. It may be better than we think. Even our failures turn out to be important. Existing is easy. Feel the fear let it go. Jump in and do it.

Letting Go Of Guilt:
There's a good trick that a person who lives in dysfunctional relationships use'" The other person does something inappropriate or wrong then stands there until you feel guilty and end up saying sorry.  A lot of time the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person acts inappropirate and violates our boundaries. We challenge their behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty. Guilt can stop us from taking good care of ourselves. We don't have to allow ourselves to be controlled by guilt.-earned or unearned. We are not at fault, crazy or wrong. We have a right to set boundaries.

Finding Balance:

The goal of recovery is balance. The precious middle ground. Many of us have gone to the extreme on one side or the other. Years of taking care of everyone but ourselves.We may have spent years refusing to feel, identify,and deal with our feelings.We can nurture the quiet confidence of owning our power as equals in our relationship with others. All from the Book The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

The Grasshopper Myth

by Karl Vaters

I have to say I just read one of the most interesting books on small church  and  large church. I loved it! I totally agree. Not all pastors are called to build a large church. Anthony and I worked on staff with a church that ran around 2400 when we were there at the time. Please allow me to say this from my point of view without judgement. It was a monster that consumed that pastor and his wife. I often felt sorry for them. I know they had to pastor Ranch style, so it was quite an eye opening experience coming from much smaller church experience.They were called to it and loved it! However, I am not sure if that is what we are even called to do. But that does not make them better than us. We walk in our callings and produce the talents given to us to multiply. We are responsible to that! Good and faithful servants. As an ARC plant there are many of the pastors that have had huge churches success over night. However, not every one did using that method. Smaller communities do not respond in that way. It takes some smaller towns longevity to get into an area for good healthy growth. Really it is not all about numbers it is about the Health and truly understanding the calling where God has you.

"I propose that the following about the new small church.
We are not stuck
We are not failing
We are not incompetent
We are not limited in our vision
We do not need to be fixed
We are not less then....
We are God's idea
We are small" from The Grasshopper Myth by Karl Vaters

I highly recommend this book for all pastors. We can learn from each other.



Dinner Idea

Getting groceries today I could not decide which flowers I wanted.  There is nothing like adding fresh flowers to the table.



Tonight with our fish tacos I added a little twist. 


I added this to the spinach leafs to go on top.
It added a new tasty flavor tonight! 






Monday, March 23, 2015

Mean Girls.....At Church



My STORY is not much different then many other girls big, small, young or old that encounter bullies. However, I have seem to have had my share of them both in school and in church. Yes, there are mean girls in church! Mine started with our pastors daughter who made it her mission to try to provoke me  or be as mean as she could on every turn. She was bent on trying to hurt me at every opportunity she could find. She would pull all the kids together and run and hide from me as a child. I was always the target of her childhood games.

This progressed to whispering and looking at me with all the other girls on one side while I was on the other. There were times I wanted to just be her friend but for what ever reason she had it in for me. It never stopped! It progressed to where she would find out what boy I liked and tell everyone and then make a big show about how she could take any boy I liked. It was a game to her. But what she didn't know was I only had one major crush in my teenage life time and she was gone by the time I met him. You would think that a deacon's daughter would know better let alone a pastor's daughter! 

 She would start or carry on rumors about me that were absolutely not true! While she lead the church youth group to the back row of the church. I remained on the front. It actually made me closer to God and stronger for him as I began my calling. I don't know maybe its true once a bully always a bully without God's Grace.
Years later( my Sophomore year) we moved to an amazing church with a lot of friends. I loved it! It was away from being bullied. Or so I thought. You see, bullies are everywhere! You will have to face them in many times throughout your life. And just because it's church does not mean it stops. Sad to say but some of the same things that happen in circle of high school friends often times happen in church just in different sneaky ways. Although I have forgiven her as a teenager, I have never received an apology for any of her childhood tortures she afflicted on me service after church service.

I soon met my knew bully. She was not the mean kind that spread rumors or that run away from you with a group of other girls. She was the front row worshiper. She was the pretty, popular girl that everyone liked. But what they did not know or what they could not see was that She made sure at every opportunity she had to let me know how much better she was than me. I was simply trying to be the best me I could be. I was running in my own lane and honestly in my heart of hearts I didn't care about her lane. How pretty she was and how that I didn't have a chance with her brother because I was not good enough. At every turn I could see her manipulating. Time after time we would be together she would tell me how he would have a crush on this girl( her best friend) I didn't even ask or let any one know I even liked the guy. I do not know if she was afraid that we would get together or what, but she could not leave it alone. So by then I really didn't care I stayed clean away from him.  I remember one Sunday, for what ever reason she was taking me home in her car. I will never forget it. I said to her" you know it would be really great if you and I could be friends, trying find common Christ like ground with her. She told me that I was not good enough to be in her circle of friends and that I needed to stay where I was. None of that made any sense to me because I wanted to be friends with everyone. But it was like she had to be in some elite group that only she could be part of. There was not enough room for me. She is the only one who could succeed.So with her syrupy sweet smile and pretty face she would diss me, brag, show off whenever she had a chance.  But REALLY by then I did not even care it just became annoying.


Pink Peonies

You see when you come to Christ it is an

even playing ground! 

There are no favorites with God in his Kingdom. Man has man made clubs and groups with favorites for all to see.This is what amazes me, God's love and resources are to all those who are saved. There is no elite groups! We are all a part of the body of Christ if you truly have been saved. He has amazing dreams for each and every one of us, not for just a select group. I have seen time and time again that if the bully does not get it under the blood. They will have a rude awakening with God. Their life will not be what he has planned for them, his absolute best. 

1. THE MEAN GIRL NEVER WINS IN THE END.

It may look like she has won when you see her gloating at a football game or writing biting comments on Instagram. But the truth is that she is hurting and if she keeps up this behavior, she will continue to hurt long after you know her name or care what she thinks of you.

2. FORGET THE PILE MENTALITY.

There is not a pile and you don’t need to get to the top of it. In school, there is a feeling of social hierarchy, but ignore it. It’s not real life. The most popular girl at your school? She’ll go to college and be a freshman and no one will know her. The pile is an illusion.

3. LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE.

It’s hard to be the mean girl when you are having a great time. If you are hanging with people you like (in real life or online) and participating in activities you like (whether they are labeled “cool” or not), you don’t have time or energy to be mean. You are you on purpose- like the things you like, like the people you like, and be glad to be you.

4. USE YOUR WORDS WELL.

You have so much power with your words. Don’t quit using them, don’t walk away from the internet or your friends. Recognize that you can change someone’s whole day with just a kind word.

5. BE BRAVE.

It isn't easy swimming upstream, going against culture and deciding to stand up when others back away. Be brave with your words, be brave with your friendships. Don’t be the girl that has to be at the top of the pile. Be the girl who is wise enough to recognize the pile doesn't exist and brave enough to build something new there. Annie Downs

"The Urban Dictionary defines “Mean Girls” as girls who are bullies and use “girl aggression” (nasty comments, trickery, deceit, excluding people from events, spreading rumors, stealing boyfriends,etc.) to manipulate other girls."

Of course life has a way of growing us all up. But the fact remains. There is and always will be bullies even in adult years. They are at your work, at your homes, yes again even in your churches. You have a choice! Is this the seed I want to sew. Or am I going to let this soften me and learn from it. Be the better person. Allow God to use this for HIS advantage.

Mean church girl.....You are sewing some very bad seed in your life that will come back to you in a form of a harvest your not going like if you do not get it right!



"Some paths we suddenly find ourselves walking are overwhelming and shake us to our very core. There is nothing we or anyone else can do to make it go away and we feel frightened, alone and powerless.
 But even then, in our darkest, most alone, moment there is a glimmer of light and somehow we keep moving. And the truth is that each one of us has faced or will face devastating loses and heartbreak when we wonder how will we ever go on. But we do the best we can, one small step, one tiny step at a time and we focus on that light and even though we may be shaking, we hold steady. And then one day, months, maybe even years later we realize that it was actually the "getting through" part that deepened us and gave us the capacity to be that glimmer of hope and light for others. And the circle it goes round and round".

Resource: Please check all of these sites out. They are full of help.

http://www.balmnet.co.uk/spirituality.htm

http://www.bullyonline.org/action/recover.htm

http://www.foreverymom.com/mean-girls-go-to-church/

https://unlockingfemininity.wordpress.com/2013/09/17/you-might-be-the-mean-girl-in-your-church-if/
http://millennialpastor.net/2014/01/23/12-reasons-why-it-is-good-to-be-a-church-bully/

https://unlockingfemininity.wordpress.com/2013/09/17/you-might-be-the-mean-girl-in-your-church-if/




Flower Pot Chandelier

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Date Your Man

You are the invitation and the mood setter! Light a thousand candles! Just be with your love. He is not the pastor, the minister, the business man, the prophet, the organizer, the problem solver HE IS YOUR LOVE!

Music: Choices

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ynn3mzC2E4



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EsC4zTr77oI



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJ30w9R3XEY